What does growth mean?


Have been in a few conversations recently where career growth, progression etc. have been the hot topic of discussion. Realized at the end of it that we as a society have started to place too much value and hence focus on external validation of growth. Titular growth, accompanied by material markers of success seem to be inextricably linked to conventional definitions of growth. This is leading to conflict because two distinct individuals might want to grow towards the same title, and more importantly and sadly it is taking away from a more individualistic model of growth which is anchored in individual identity as a starting point. 

Needless to say, for the latter to take place, individuals need to take charge of their own growth and development. What does this look like (or not)?

Let’s first start with a rudimentary definition of growth which I lay no claim to on authorship but identify very strongly with

Individual Growth= “Being a better version of oneself”

While seemingly a rudimentary definition, it anchors in the self and propels forward. Implicit in this definition is a journey view of growth rather than a milestone while suggesting a work in progress mindset. And because it uses “better” it somewhere assumes the “Good” is already in place. In a way it promotes a constructive view of development, rather than a deficit fixing view.

To come back to how can one be this way (“being” being the operative word here)
·        Cultivate self-awareness- If one has to be a better version of oneself, constantly being in the mode of self-awareness is a necessary condition (read more here on how- Our Inner Voice)
·        Bench-marking values/ways of being- Rather than being caught in bench-marking practices that others might be involved in, seek out values or ways of being that are inspirational. For e.g. instead of blindly doing charity because the neighbor seems to be doing it, think about what Cause energizes you and how you would want to make a difference there. This will help you distinguish between the means and the ends.
·        Unshackling self-limiting habits- Go after habits that are coming in the way of the growth mindset. Employ a coach, consult friends and work with yourself in going beyond. There is nothing sweeter than conquering the naysayers in one’s own mind.
·        Take others along where you can- This serves two purposes, it gives you meaningful social connections and also gives you the opportunity to get feedback. Feedback is an important tool in the journey of being a better version of oneself
·        Make values based choices- Being aware of and centered in one’s core values helps make choices that grow you. Remember growth is as much about knowing when to walk away.
·        Be goal oriented- Have internal yardsticks on what you are growing towards. Measure yourself against these yardsticks even if nobody is watching. Be accountable to yourself
·        Be happy- Don’t postpone your happiness or link it to some material acquisitions and milestones. Choose happiness. Here and Now. Period.

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